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Dear friends,


On March 6th, 2011 George Hodgins, a 22-year old autistic man living in Sunnyvale, California, was murdered by his mother. In the aftermath of his killing, I and other members of the local disability community were concerned by the fact that the media covering his death focused mainly on expressing sympathy for his killer. Because he was disabled, George had been written out of the story of his own murder.


This past Friday, I helped organize a vigil for George and other disabled people killed by their family members. One of the names we read was Tracy Latimer’s a disabled teenager killed by her father in 1993. Little did we know that as we spoke Tracy’s name, her father was speaking on a television panel for the Canadian Global News, arguing for legalizing the killing of disabled people – in the name of “mercy.” Our vigil received sympathetic coverage in the press, but so did Robert Latimer’s call for legalizing the murder of disabled children.


It’s obvious that many in our society still regard the murder of disabled people as unimportant, or even desirable. But I’ve also learned that disabled activists can also have an effective on public perception, if we can find a way to get our voices heard.


On behalf of the Autistic Self Advocacy Network, I am asking you join us in taking action. On March 30th, help us organize a nation-wide day of mourning for disabled people killed by family members and caregivers. Our goal is to hold vigils in cities across America to memorialize murder victims. Through your help, we hope to amplify our message: that disabled people deserve to live fulfilling lives free of violence.


We’re calling for volunteers to organize vigils in their local communities on or around March 30th. You may never have organized this kind of event before, but please know that you’ll have support – our first vigil was a success, and we can help you as you work to organize yours. If you want to help us take a stand against the violence facing our community, please write to me at zgross@autisticadvocacy.org.


Send a message to society that the disability community has no place for the kind of “mercy” offered by Robert Latimer and others who view us as having lives not worth living. The time has come for us to fight back. On March 30th, help us make it happen.


In solidarity,


Zoe Gross
Autistic Self Advocacy Network




Last week, George Hodgins, an autistic adult living in Sunnyvale, CA, was murdered by his own mother. In the aftermath of his death, much of the public discussion surrounding his killing focused on expressing sympathy for his killer. ASAN Member Zoe Gross of Oakland, CA objected to this and helped organize a candlelit vigil in memory of George and all disabled people who have been murdered by their family members. The vigil will take place tonight at 6 PM PST, rain or shine, in front of the Sunnyvale City Hall building. Details can be found here: http://www.facebook.com/events/199680943470301/.

 

We urge supporters of disability rights and neurodiversity to join Zoe and other local Autistic people and allies in the California bay area in remembering George this evening. For those who can not make it, we are printing Zoe’s prepared remarks below:

 

Last Tuesday, George Hodgins was shot and killed by his mother, who then killed herself. George lived here in Sunnyvale and he was 22 years old. I didn’t know George, but I can’t stop thinking about him. Maybe it’s because we have a lot in common – we lived near each other, we were the same age, we’re both autistic, although we led very different lives. I would like to have met George, but I can only mourn him. And I can try to make sure that his story isn’t forgotten.

 

In the wake of this tragedy, I read a lot of articles that asked the readers to imagine how George’s mother must have felt. But I didn’t see a single article that asked the reader to empathize for George, to imagine how it feels to see your mother point a gun at you. I’ve seen a lot of people talking about how hard it must be to live with an autistic relative, but I didn’t see anyone talking about how terrible it be to die knowing that your parent, who you love and depend on, has decided to hurt and kill you.

 

Because he was autistic, George is being erased from the story of his own murder.

 

The story of George Hodgins’s death is being discussed and presented as a story of a mother who snapped, and the story of other parents who have felt the same way. It’s being told as a story about a lack of services for families with special-needs children, as though a lack of services is a justification for murder.

 

When disabled people are murdered by their families, this is the story people want to hear. It’s the same story that we saw in newspapers after Katie McCarron was murdered, and after Jeremy Fraser was murdered, and after Glenn Freaney was murdered, and after Zain and Faryaal Akhter were murdered. The story goes like this: it is understandable that someone would kill their disabled relative if they don’t get help to care for them.

 

I don’t think this is a true story.

 

Why is the story being told this way? Because we live in a world that doesn’t acknowledge the value of our lives as disabled people. Because so many people in our society can’t imagine a disabled person living a fulfilling life, so they don’t see the tragedy and the wasted potential when one of our lives is cut short.

 

As disabled people, we have to take a stand against this kind of thinking. We have to get the word out that our lives matter, that our lives are our own stories and not just the stories of our non-disabled parents and relatives and caretakers. We have to let people know that they are missing part of the story.

 

Because the story of George Hodgins’s murder is also the story of the disabled community losing one of our own. It’s the story of the other disabled people who were murdered by their family members, and it’s the story of the society that thinks so little of people with disabilities that these murders are all too often justified as “understandable.” Most of all, it’s George’s story – the story of a young man who enjoyed hiking, who was always looking to learn new skills, who had his whole life in front of him.

 

Now George is gone, and only his memory remains, and already that memory is being distorted by people who want to tell his story and leave him out. That’s not going to happen tonight. We’re here to remember the real story.




The response to our call for applications for the Autism Campus Inclusion project’s Summer Institute has been wonderful. With 3 more weeks to send in an application, it’s not too late to be considered for the program.


Applicants should be current Autistic college students who have a passion for disability rights and want to implement systems change on their college campuses. Any current Autistic student, certificate, undergraduate or graduate, with at least one year remaining on campus will be considered with applications due March 30, 2012.


What does it mean to implement systems change? It’s about creating a community with Autistic students and others with disabilities. It’s about making a meaningful impact to allow for a more inclusive education experience. With some of the top leaders in community organizing, disability rights and Autistic rights, participants are sure to take away the skills they need to do all of this and more.


If you feel you would like to participate, please fill out the application and submit it with your responses to the essay questions and your resume to Melody Latimer at mlatimer@autisticadvocacy.org . All questions and accommodation requests should also be directed to Melody.


We look forward to hearing from you.


Sincerely,

 

The Autistic Self Advocacy Network



Freddie Mac, Fannie Mae move to OTC market

With our first round of internships underway, we are seeking additional autistic applicants to intern with Freddie Mac for summer 2012.


We are very excited to see that our first interns are on their way with great support by their managers and human resources at Freddie Mac. This has led the pilot program between Freddie Mac and the Autistic Self Advocacy Network to continue on and make available two more intern positions for autistic adults for the upcoming summer.


Interested parties must be able to work in the Washington, DC metro area. Internships are paid positions and will include a small housing stipend.


If you feel you meet the following, please send your resume to resumes@autisticadvocacy.org. Internships are due to begin during the month of May.


Portfolio Analytics Internship


Required Skills:

        Knowledge of:

                Microsoft Excel

                Visual Basic for Application (VBA) language

                 Microsoft Access

                 Structured Query Language (SQL)


Job Description:


Assisting portfolio analytics and strategy area in improving documentation of the periodic processes

Assisting the members of team for running analysis required to support the portfolio and risk management activities in Investment & Capital Markets (ICM)


Image File Processor Internship


Required Skills:


      Basic computer skills, including but not limited to:

WinZip

Excel

Access

DOS


Job Functions:

Batch processing CDs received from customers to initiate receiving process

Verification of delivered files

Analyze files for totals of incoming and outgoing

Transferring files to LAN Drives

Creating and Analyzing Vendor Reports

Submit reports to vendors



Press Association

7th March 2012


More than half of factories employing mainly disabled workers are set to close, with the loss of 1,700 jobs in a move attacked as “barbaric”.

The Government announced that Remploy is proposing to close 36 of its 54 factories, with potential compulsory redundancies of 1,752 people, including 1,518 disabled employees.


Minister for disabled people Maria Miller said the Remploy board was proposing to close the sites by the end of the year because they were unlikely to achieve independent financial viability.

She said the £320 million budget for disability employment has been protected, adding that the money will be spent more effectively.


Politicians and union leaders hit out at the Government, warning that many disabled workers might never find another job, especially with unemployment moving towards three million.

Unite general secretary Len McCluskey said: “This is a barbaric decision. The Government has sunk to a new low. To choose to cut these jobs only a few days after the Government passed the welfare Bill is proof it has no intention of helping the most vulnerable in society. Instead the coalition is only making life worse.


“In the worst economic crisis since the 1930s, these workers’ prospects of finding work are almost zero.”

Shadow work and pensions secretary Liam Byrne said it was “disappointing” the Department for Work and Pensions announced the closures in a written statement rushed out after Prime Minister’s Questions, denying MPs the chance to quiz David Cameron on the “callous decision”.


Ms Miller said she had assessed “very carefully” the needs of Remploy workers, as well as the 6.9 million disabled people of working age who could benefit from greater specialist employment support.

She said: “The Government will reduce its current subsidy to Remploy from the beginning of the new financial year so that we cease funding factories which make significant losses year after year and restrict funding to those factories which might have a prospect of a viable future without Government subsidy.”

Source:


Related Articles


Guardian: Do Disabled People Fare Better In The Open Market?

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2011/01/22/guardian-do-disabled-people-fare-better-in-the-open-labour-market-2/


NAS and Remploy Work To Improve Job Opportunities For Autistic People/Chanc ellor Announces Future Changes To DLA

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2011/01/22/nas-and-remploy-work-to-improve-job-opportunities-for-autistic-peoplechancellor-announces-future-changes-to-dla/



Jersey City As Night Falls

HEADLINES

 

“Boy, 15, shot to death after attacking police had autism disorder”:

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-02-01/news/chi-family-says-boy-15-shot-to-death-after-threatening-cutting-police-had-autism-disorder-20120201_1_gilmore-knife-and-officers-autism


Respite Care Death “Boy’s death: Carers ‘made assurances”:

http://www.stamfordmercury.co.uk/news/boy_death_carers_made_assurances_1_3496484


“Autistic teen dies in fall down Gold Coast high-rise trash chute”:

http://www.suntimes.com/news/metro/10776831-418/autistic-teen-dies-in-fall-down-gold-coast-high-rise-trash-chute.html


“Troy 6th grader hit by car dies”:

http://detroit.cbslocal.com/2012/01/30/troy-6th-grader-hit-by-car-dies/


“Autistic Castleford boy Joshua Houlgate, 10, collapses and dies while building a snowman”:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2097634/Castleford-boy-Joshua-Houlgate-10-collapses-dies-building-snowman.html


“Help Stop Abuse of Autistics in France Now!”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/19/support-the-wall-help-stop-abuse-of-autistics-in-france-now/


“NJ parents: Disabled girl denied transplant”:

http://amarillo.com/news/national-news/2012-01-18/disabled-girl-denied-life-saving-transplant#.TxlNMyM0FJg


“Judge ruled mentally ill woman should be given abortion, sterilized”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/19/judge-ruled-mentally-ill-woman-should-be-given-abortion-sterilized/


“School principal rescues autistic student from river”:

http://www.whptv.com/news/local/story/School-principal-rescues-autistic-student-from/2j4loKU32kSn63wKD0V-Cw.cspx


“Saved by a punch: Boy, 13, is given life preserving treatment after playground knockout led to discovery of undiagnosed heart condition”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/saved-by-a-punch-playground-knockout-leads-to-rare-heart-condition-discovery/


“Ho Yide: Father forces son, 4, to strip to his underwear in New York snow to combat developmental difficulties”:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2098187/Ho-Yide-Father-forces-son-4-strip-underwear-New-York-snow.html


“School Bus Bullying: Autistic child brutally beaten”:

http://www.thedailyactivist.com/social-issues-bullying-special-needs-autism/


“Video of autistic child’s attack posted on Facebook”:

http://baltimore.cbslocal.com/2012/01/23/video-of-autistic-kids-attack-posted-on-facebook/?hpt=ju_bn4


“Mother of autistic boy levels charges of bullying at Malverne school”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/mother-of-autistic-boy-levels-charges-of-bullying-at-malverne-school/


“London: Disabled protesters block Regent Street”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/london-disabled-protesters-block-regent-street/


“PM warned over vulnerable families”:

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/pm-warned-over-vulnerable-families-194842137.html


Australia “Kids with disabilities left in limbo”:

http://www.news.com.au/national/stuff-up-leaves-disabled-kids-in-limbo/story-e6frfkvr-1226257719433


China “Privately-run orphange gets gov’t fund”:

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/china/2012-01/16/content_14456517.htm


“Group may fight disability ruling”:

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/group-may-fight-disability-ruling-215503826.html


Gary McKinnon Update “Hearing set for July in hacking extradition case”:

http://www.bcs.org/content/conWebDoc/43611


“May’s U-turn on US extradition treaty”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/gary-mckinnon-updates-mays-u-turn-on-us-extradition-treaty/


“Gary McKinnon Update: Judges bid to speed up hacking case”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/gary-mckinnon-update-judges-bid-to-speed-up-hacking-case/


“Obama quizzed on Briton extradition”:

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/obama-quizzed-briton-extradition-084232025.html


“Autreat 2012 Call for Proposals”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/autreat-2012-call-for-proposals/


“Mum Demet Latifoglu dies a hero”:

http://www.adelaidenow.com.au/mum-demet-latifoglu-dies-a-hero/story-e6frea6u-1226251812205


HEALTH & RESEARCH


“Early signs of autism detected at six months/Anxiety, other disorders more common in autism”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/autism-detected-at-six-monthsanxiety-other-disorders-more-common-in-autism/


“Twin Studies: Low birth rate strong predictor of ASD”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/twin-studies-low-birth-weight-strong-predictor-of-asd/


“Autism: Black children diagnosed later”:

http://www.health24.com/news/Child_safety/1-943,72882.asp


“New study shows minority autistic toddlers are more delayed than affected caucasian peers”:

http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/new-study-shows-minority-toddlers-with-autism-are-more-delayed-than-affected-caucasian-peers-139830793.html


“New gene discovery unlocks mystery of epilepsy in infants”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/19/new-gene-discovery-unlocks-mystery-of-epilepsy-in-infants/


“New definition of autism will exclude many, study suggests/Psychiatric group push to redefine mental illness sparks revolt”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/new-definition-of-autism-may-exclude-manypsychiatric-group-push-to-redefine-mental-illness-sparks-revolt/


“Study on the changing diagnosis of autism”:

http://pediatrics.about.com/b/2012/01/23/study-on-the-changing-diagnosis-of-autism.htm


“Shy children could be labelled as mentally ill”:

http://uk.health.lifestyle.yahoo.net/Shy-people-caould-be-labelled-mentally-ill.htm


“Should grief be considered a disorder?”:

http://blog.aarp.org/2012/01/27/should-grief-be-a-disorder/


“Mental health beds for Hamilton kids”:

http://www.thespec.com/news/local/article/662236–a-place-for-kids-to-lay-in-mental-health-beds


Angelman Syndrome “New clinic for rare disorder(Includes Related Articles, Links & Books)”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/angelman-syndrome-new-clinic-for-rare-disorder/


“CiteULike: Outcome in High-Functioning Autistic Adults With and Without Early Language Delays: Implications for the Differentiation Between Autism and Asperger Syndrome”:

http://www.citeulike.org/user/sarahwang/article/8787248


“CiteULike: Autism and Asperger syndrome: coexistence with other clinical disorders”:

http://www.citeulike.org/user/sarahwang/article/10315518


“What are the safety concerns for people on the autism spectrum?”:

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-autism-advocate/201202/what-are-the-safety-concerns-people-the-autism-spectrum


“OCD and Reassurance”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/18/ocd-and-reassurance/


“Mystery outbreak of tourette’s at US school baffles doctors”:

http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/mystery-outbreak-of-tourette-s-at-us-school-baffles-doctors.html


“Top ten legal drugs linked to violence/SSRI Stories”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/top-ten-legal-drugs-linked-to-violencessri-stories/


“Tinnitus Awareness Week: What your doctor should know”:

http://uk.health.lifestyle.yahoo.net/Tinnitus-what-GPs-need-to-know.htm


“Automated CT scans could speed up 3D brain imaging”:

http://www.theengineer.co.uk/sectors/medical-and-healthcare/news/automated-ct-scans-could-speed-up-3d-brain-imaging/1011418.article


“9 ways to take care of yourself when you have depression”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/19/9-ways-to-take-care-of-yourself-when-you-have-depression/


“Why do some people never get depressed?”:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-16749565


“MindHacks: Inside Broadmoor”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/mindhacks-inside-broadmoor/


“BPS Research Digest: The Special Issue Spotter”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/18/bps-research-digest-the-special-issue-spotter-37/


“How ‘Beckham tape’ can help you beat headaches: More than 10 million of us suffer from the pain”:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2093116/How-Beckham-tape-help-beat-headaches-More-10-million-suffer-pain.html


“Signs of Low Self-Esteem”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/signs-of-low-self-esteem/


“February Is Heart Health Month – National Wear Red Day Feb 24/These Four Things Happen Right Before a Heart Attack”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/february-is-heart-health-month-national-wear-red-day-feb-24/


“Physical activity yields feelings of excitement, enthusiasm”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/physical-activity-yields-feelings-of-excitement-enthusiasm/


“5 Relationship Skills for Conflict”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/5-relationship-skills-for-conflict/


“Relationships: Is It Time To Start Dating Your Spouse?, Living Alone, Online Dating, Teen Love, The Seven Year Itch & More …”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/relationships-is-it-time-to-start-dating-your-spouse-living-alone-online-dating-teen-love-the-seven-year-itch-more/


“Virtual Hospital”:

http://www.uihealthcare.com/vh/

EDUCATION

 


“ASAN invites autistic students to participate in leadership training”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/asan-invites-autistic-students-to-participate-in-leadership-training/


“University program helps autistic students … When he was 2, doctors diagnosed Pusateri of Sewickley with autism, a spectrum of disorders characterized by social impairment and communication problems. He’s not intellectually impaired; his professors say he’s among their brightest students. He just lacks an intuitive understanding of the unconscious gestures, invisible boundaries and tiny signals that weave into our social fabric. But he’s learning.”:

http://www.njherald.com/story/16677694/university-program-helps-autistic-students


“Mother’s fears for son’s future … The mother, whose 16-year-old son was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome and currently has the help of a dedicated classroom assistant in school, said she saw the Minister for Education’s announcement about changes to the Special Education Needs (SEN) policy as nothing more than “a cost-cutting exercise” and added that, as she sees it, schools are struggling to cope as it is.”:

http://www.banbridgeleader.co.uk/news/local/mother_s_fears_for_son_s_future_1_3501978


“7th grader shows he has mettle for College Chemistry”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/7th-grader-shows-he-has-mettle-for-college-chemistry/


“Mansfield professor researches autism, child prodigies”:

http://www.mansfieldnewsjournal.com/article/20120201/NEWS01/202010305/Mansfield-professor-researches-autism-child-prodigies


“Parents urge school board to make Special Education a priority”:

http://www.leesburg2day.com/news/schools/article_ff8eef4e-41f0-11e1-a05d-0019bb2963f4.html


“School stresses the importance of learning about differently-abled children”:

http://wayne.patch.com/articles/school-stresses-the-importance-of-learning-about-differently-abled-children


“University of Utah: 3D modelling software SketchUp helps autistic kids build skills”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/university-of-utah-3d-modelling-software-sketchup-helps-autistic-kids-build-skills/


“Other school districts also using iPads to help teach”:

http://host.madison.com/wsj/news/local/education/local_schools/other-school-districts-also-using-ipads-to-help-teach/article_306a2868-4917-11e1-8d8c-001871e3ce6c.html


“Richmond County schools excited about Apple iBooks 2”:

http://chronicle.augusta.com/news/business/2012-01-19/richmond-county-schools-excited-about-apple-ibooks-2?v=1327036635


“Robbinsdale Schools Paraprofessional Diane Olson”:

http://plymouth-mn.patch.com/articles/robbinsdale-schools-para-professional-diane-olson


“Jenn Ashworth: Why I refused to go to school”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/why-i-refused-to-go-to-school/


Athletics “Johnson provides insight and inspiration”:

http://www.rpiathletics.com/news/2012/1/30/GEN_0130122643.aspx


“Calvin College runner says competing in track, cross country helps him overcome disability”:

http://www.mlive.com/smallcolleges/grandrapids/index.ssf/2012/01/calvin_college_runner_says_com.html


“Wellington Elementary staff raises awareness of autism … Wellington Elementary staff enjoyed the hospitality of Trietsch Memorial United Methodist Church’s mini-movie theatre on the Jan. 13 teacher workday. Nothing like movie theatre popcorn and a big screen showing of “Temple Grandin” to get the staff thinking about how they can modify and accommodate instruction for students with autism and Asperger’s syndrome. Principal Dr. Robin Macke hopes the movie will serve as inspiration for her teachers.”:

http://allenpub.com/article/Flower_Mound_TNC/Schools/Wellington_Elementary_staff_raises_awareness_of_autism/35350

 

EMPLOYMENT


“JVS Career Center: People with ASD have much to offer employers”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/jvs-career-center-people-with-asd-have-much-to-offer-employers/


“7 ways you can work from home productively”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/18/7-ways-you-can-work-from-home-productively/


“The hidden costs of a job you loathe”:

http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/blogs/smartmeter/hidden-costs-job-loathe-105040057.html


Asperger Informatik AG “Professionelles Webdesign und Software Testing in Zurich”:

http://www.asperger-informatik.ch/


“Creative Support Ltd”:

http://www.creativesupport.co.uk/


“Autelligent Laboratories

We believe all people have a contribution to make and deserve an opportunity to be productive.

With your caring and excellent help, we are creating jobs for the 40 million people worldwide who are diagnosed with Autism and Asperger Syndrome. Today less than one in five of us are currently employed. We are motivated and competent and we deserve equal employment. Help make this a reality.

Autelligent Laboratories is dedicated to creating a space where autistic software engineers can more than contribute, we can excel.”:

http://www.autlabs.com/


Luxury Quality Scented Candles “Humbolt Candles – Autism & Disability Employment Company”:

http://www.humboldtcandles.com/index.html


“Auties.org”:
Individuality, Diversity, Equality, Achievement

Auties..org is an Aspie & Autie friendly site for all people on the Autistic Spectrum who are ready to dare reach out to occupation and employment, open the doors to the community and market their abilities directly to the public and for those interested in supporting these pioneers.

http://www.auties.org/


“Prospects”:

http://www.autism.org.uk/our-services/employment-support/prospects-for-job-seekers.aspx


“AutismJobs”:
Linking job seekers with vacancies in work related to autism, Aspergers and ASDs

http://www.autismjobs.org/?section=00010009


“Employment within the NAS”:

http://www.autism.org.uk/en-gb/working-with/a-career-in-autism/career-opportunities-with-the-nas.aspx


“For further employment information, please view”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/employment-on-the-autism-spectrum/

 

GENERAL/HUMAN INTEREST


“I see my son with Asperger’s and see potential”:

http://www.irishexaminer.com/news/i-see-my-son-with-aspergers-and-see-potential-182903.html


“Autism Roundtable: Cross-Disability Solidarity, Goals for the Future, and What it Means to “Fit in”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/06/autism-roundtable-cross-disability-solidarity-goals-for-the-future-and-what-it-means-to-fit-in/


“In Praise of Diversity”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/06/in-praise-of-diversity/


Through Their Eyes “Amazing calendar from autistic individuals now available”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/20/through-their-eyes-2012-calendar-available/


“When are autistic teens ready to drive?”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/18/when-are-autistic-teens-ready-to-drive/


“Ricky Stuart opens up about autism and his daughter Emma”:

http://www.couriermail.com.au/sport/nrl/a-fathers-love-knows-no-bounds/story-e6frep5x-1226256006863


“Holidaying with autistic children all about planning ahead”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/02/11/holidaying-with-autistic-children-all-about-planning-ahead/


“IBM 5 in 5: Predictions for the Future of Tech in 5 years”:

http://signalnews.com/ibm-5-5-five-predictions-for-future-of-tech-5-years-854


“Cerebral palsy lad wows model world”:

https://www.aspie-editorial.com/2012/01/30/cerebral-palsy-lad-wows-model-world/


“Learning to live with asperger’s”:

http://www.wnyc.org/npr_articles/2012/feb/03/best-practices-learning-to-live-with-aspergers/

 

NEW JERSEY

Flag of the State of New Jersey

Flag of the State of New Jersey


“New Jersey State Resources”:

http://www.autism-society.org/get-involved/state-resources/new-jersey.html

New Jersey Landscape

New Jersey Landscape


“Disability Rights New Jersey”:

http://www.drnj.org/

Great Falls, Paterson, NJ

Great Falls, Paterson, New Jersey:The Great Falls / S.U.M. National Historic Landmark district is a 118-acre industrial historic site located in Paterson, New Jersey. Located just 12 miles west of New York City, it is home to the largest and best example of early manufacturing mills in the United States. It contains 18th, 19th, and 20th-century waterpower remnants, including a three-tiered water raceway system. At the district’s core is the natural landmark Great Falls, the second largest waterfall by volume east of the Mississippi.


“New Jersey Coalition for Inclusive Education”:

http://njcie.net/index.asp

Beautiful New Jersey

Beautiful New Jersey


“New Jersey Department of Education – Special Education Programs”:

http://www.nj.gov/education/specialed/

Delaware Water Gap

New Jersey shares the Delaware Water Gap with neighboring Pennsylvania.


“Education Law Center”:
http://www.edlawcenter.org/index.htm

Oceanfront Mansion, Sea Bright

One of several oceanfront mansions at Sea Bright, an Atlantic Ocean resort that is fairly close to Fort Monmouth


“Asperger Syndrome Education Network (ASPEN)”:

http://www.aspennj.org/

South Findlay Street in Basking Ridge

South Findlay Street in Basking Ridge, NJ

“Autism Family Services of New Jersey”:

http://www.autismfamilyservicesnj.org/

Merril Creek, NJ

Merril Creek, NJ


“New Jersey Resources”:

http://www.50states.com/newjerse.htm

New Jersey Palisades

New Jersey Palisades overlooking the Hudson River


“New Jersey Guide”:

http://travel.nationalgeographic.com/travel/united-states/new-jersey-guide/

New Urbanism in New Jersey

New Urbanism in New Jersey: This is a street in Livingston Town Center, a new development in Livingston, New Jersey. It’s a compact block mixing detached houses, townhouses, condo apartments, and stores with each other in a walkable mixed-use neighborhood – the kind of streetscape that towns used to build before cookie-cutter autocentric suburban developments came along. The New Urbanist movement supports developments like this as a form of traditional neighborhood development, or TND – everything you need (including a transit stop) within a walk of each other, with building density that encourages community among the residents. Note how the houses here are close together, rather than being set on their own one-acre pods.

“New Jersey Facts”:

http://travel.nationalgeographic.com/travel/united-states/new-jersey-facts/

Avon-by-the-Sea

Beautiful Victorian homes line the wide side streets of the charming New Jersey Shore Town. It is a family resort located on the North Jersey Shore.


“New Jersey Map”:

http://travel.nationalgeographic.com/travel/united-states/new-jersey-map/

Ice Hockey

Stony Brook University Vs Rutgers University

“New Jersey Local News”:

http://www.nj.com/

George Washington after the Battle of Princeton

George Washington after the Battle of Princeton.
Learn more …http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_of_Princeton


“New Jersey’s Best Restaurants Guide”:

http://www.toprestaurants.com/newjersey.htm

 

Death of General Mercer
 Death of General Mercer at the Battle of Princeton by John Trumbull
New Jersey Native
New Jersey Native: The eastern subspecies of the American Bison ranged into the forest clearings of the eastern seaboard, including New Jersey. That subspecies was larger and much darker than the western bison that we know today, but occurred in much smaller numbers. The subspecies was killed off in the early 19th C and probably did not make any genetic contribution to the farm-raised bison of today. Shot at sunrise in Hunterdon County, NJ
New Jersey Quaker Parrots
New Jersey Quaker Parrots: These beautiful birds are not indigenous to New Jersey, from what I have read they are escapees from JFK customs, there are many different stories out there as to how they got here. Non the less there are many huge colonies of these beautiful birds in Edgewater. There have been many attempts by the power company to remove the birds, but the city of Edgewater put a stop to that.
Salem, NJ
Architecture: Salem, NJ
Princeton, NJ
Princeton, NJ
Haddonfield, NJ
Haddonfield, NJ
Belvidere, NJ
Belvidere, NJ
Cranbury, NJ
Cranbury, NJ
Blairstown, NJ
Blairstown, NJ
Red Mill
Clinton Historic District – The Red Mill
The historic Red Mill, known across the country as a photogenic symbol of early America’s rural industry, is the most photographed spot in New Jersey and one of the top ten most photographed buildings in the U.S.
New Jersey Quilts
N J Morris Museum Quilt
New Jersey State Quilt Show
New Jersey State Quilt Show
New Jersey Museum Quilt
Morris Museum:  An interesting take on the album quilt. The images of women were taken from magazines. The faces were watercoloured and the figures quilted and appliqued with lace and ribbon.
Stars & Diamonds
Crib Quilt – Stars & Diamonds
ADD/ADHD


“ADD and Loving It?!”:

http://homeschoolblogger.com/novascotia/?p=785371


“Child ADHD Help: Top 5 ways to take care of a child with ADHD”:

http://lifewithadhd.com/adhd-research/child-adhd-help-top-five-ways-to-take-care-a-child-adhd.php


BOOK “Getting Your ADHD Child to the Aha Moment: Effective School and Homework Strategies”:

http://lifewithadhd.com/adhd-books/getting-your-adhd-child-to-the-aha-moment-effective-school-and-homework-strategies.php


“CiteULike: ADHD medications and risk of serious cardiovascular events in young and middle-aged adults”:

http://www.citeulike.org/user/anniehumphreys/article/10124668


“CiteULike: Genetic epidemiology of ADHD in adults”:

http://www.citeulike.org/user/mariapage/article/7166602


“Comorbidities may signal which kids keep ASD diagnosis”:

http://www.medpagetoday.com/Neurology/ADHD-ADD/30813


“New study looks at medication use of kids with ASD, ADHD”:

http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/585988/?sc=rsla&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+NewswiseLatestNews+%28Newswise%3A+Latest+News%29


“How to treat ADHD without meds”:
http://lifewithadhd.com/adhd-drugs/how-to-treat-adhd-without-meds-%E2%80%93-follow-this-advice-and-let-your-kids-live-life-to-the-full.php


“Can a case be made for linking ADHD and anxiety?”:

http://lifewithadhd.com/adhd-research/can-a-case-be-made-for-linking-adhd-and-anxiety.php


“2 million Ritalin doses prescribed in Scotland last year”:

http://www.scotsman.com/lifestyle/health/2_million_ritalin_doses_prescribed_in_scotland_last_year_1_2097656


“Why Ritalin is Wrong (Or … IS Ritalin Wrong?”:

http://my.psychologytoday.com/blog/our-empathic-nature/201202/why-ritalin-is-wrong-or-is-ritalin-wrong-0


“An update on ADHD drug shortages”:

http://psychcentral.com/news/2012/01/17/an-update-on-adhd-drug-shortages/33771.html


“What is ADHD and how does it work?”:

http://lifewithadhd.com/adhd-research/what-is-adhd-and-how-does-it-work.php


“Physical activity program leads to better behavior for children with ADHD”:

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2012-01/sp-pap011712.php


“Children with ADHD benefit from healthy lifestyle options as first-line treatment”:

http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/584990/?sc=rsla&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+NewswiseLatestNews+%28Newswise%3A+Latest+News%29


“Lessons from the film ‘Limitless”:

http://counsellingresource.com/features/2012/01/23/lessons-film-limitless/


“Organize your mind to organize your life”:

http://edition.cnn.com/2012/01/22/health/how-organize-your-mind/index.html?eref=rss_health&utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+rss%2Fcnn_health+%28RSS%3A+Health%29


ADRES “Adverse Drug Reaction Electronic System(Adverse Drug Reactions Website)”- This website provides patients, doctors, and other medical professionals with a comprehensive examination of adverse drug reactions (ADRs), side effects, and other safety information for both prescription and over-the-counter medications.. Our goal is to allow users of our website make informed decisions when taking (patients) or prescribing (doctors) drugs. We are providing unmatched information and analysis tools.

http://www.adverse-drug-reaction.net/


“adders.org”:
Our objective is to promote awareness to AD/HD (Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) and to provide information and as much free practical help as we can to those affected by the condition, both adults and children, their families in the UK and around the World via this website.

http://www.adders.org/


“ADDISS” The National Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service…

http://www.addiss.co.uk/index.html


“ADDA”:

http://www.add.org/index.html


“hi2u ADHD Pages”:

http://www..adhd..org.uk/


“CHADD”:

http://www.chadd.org/am/CustomPages/home/CHADD_Home.htm?CFID=2282059&CFTOKEN=38105335&jsessionid=f2303343221169802693562

 

MUSIC


“Music4ASD”:

http://www.music4asd.com/

http://www.autism.org.uk/directory/resources/7923.aspx


“The AutisMusic Project”:

http://www.autismusic.com/

ART


“Katie Miller: A Beautiful Mind”:

http://www.marieclaire.com/world-reports/inspirational-women/autistic-female-artist


8 Year Old Mollee Cunningham Raises Funds For Autistic Twin Brother’s Classroom “Update: Young Fircrest artist’s fundraising project soars and makes dreams come true”:

http://lakewood.patch.com/articles/update-young-fircrest-artist-s-fundraising-project-soars-and-makes-dreams-come-true


“14 tips for making your arts venue more family friendly”:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/culture-professionals-network/culture-professionals-blog/2012/jan/24/tips-family-friendly-arts-venue


GLIMPSE – the talents of the autism community

They are painters, sculptors and photographers; poets and storytellers; musicians and creators of amazing video games. They are kids, teens and adults. Last year, a new online publication arose to celebrate the talents of autistic individuals and other developmental disabilities: GLIMPSE, offered by ICDL (The Interdisciplinary Council of Developmental and Learning Disorders). In late 2008, Volume 2 of GLIMPSE was released, and was expanded into a print book and notecards. The works are serious, humourous, deeply personal and illuminating. See it for yourself, share it with others, submit your own/your child’s work for inclusion in Volume 3, to release later this year. Find information and ordering details at www.icdl.com


“Artisancam: an award winning interactive website that gives an insight into the lives of contemporary visual artists(aimed at school-aged children, parents/teachers)”:

http://www.artisancam.org.uk/


“ARTROOM ………where under 17s can make and display art online”:

http://www.saatchi-gallery.co.uk/artroom/index.php

 

MOVIES/ENTERTAINMENT


“John Corbett on ‘A Smile As Big AS The Moon,’ playing Mike Kersjes and why he almost wasn’t an actor”:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/01/28/john-corbett-a-smile-as-big-as-the-moon_n_1235484.html


“Can Hollywood help re-shape people’s attitudes about autism?”:

http://www.fandango.com/movieblog/can-hollywood-help-reshape-peoples-attitudes-about-autism-695159.html


“Extremely Loud’ boasts incredibly fine performances”:

http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20120120/ENT02/301200029/-Extremely-Loud-boasts-incredibly-fine-performances?odyssey=mod|newswell|text|Theater|s


“Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close”:

http://www.azcentral.com/thingstodo/movies/articles/2012/01/17/20120117extremely-loud-incredibly-close-movie-review.html


“Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close”:

http://www.independent.com/news/2012/jan/24/em-extremely-loud-and-incredibly-closeem/


“Outcry as ‘Extremely Loud’ picks up Oscar nomination”:

http://uk.movies.yahoo.com/blogs/editors-20111013/outcry-extremely-loud-picks-oscar-nomination-160535747.html


“The Man in the Middle, Theatre 503, London”:

http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/theatre-dance/reviews/the-man-in-the-middle-theatre-503-london-6290381.html


“Shows with female leads dominated TV in 2011”:

http://www.observer-reporter.com/or/hazlettstory/01-02-2012-Hazlett-column


“Danes takes home Pudding award”:

http://www.smh.com.au/world/danes-takes-home-pudding-award-20120127-1qloh.html


“Actors for Autism”:
http://www.actorsforautism.com/

BOOKS


Russell Lehmann “Reno author’s work explores life with autism”:

http://www.rgj.com/article/20120209/NEWS/302090041/1459/news02


BOOK Review “I Wish I Were Engulfed in Flames … Jeni Decker’s relentlessly funny, behind-the-curtains view of everyday life in her family of autistic boys is so perfectly titled—I Wish I Were Engulfed in Flames: My Insane Life Raising Two Boys With Autism—that Hollywood, which has been known to pirate a thing or two, may want to snatch it out right.”:

http://www.theepochtimes.com/n2/arts-entertainment/book-review-i-wish-i-were-engulfed-in-flames-188519.html


Coming Soon  “Kevin Thinks … about Outer Space, Confusing Expressions and the Perfectly Logical World of Asperger Syndrome”
Gail Watts


Coming Soon  “Asperkids: An Insider’s Guide to Loving, Understanding, and Teaching Children with Asperger Syndrome”

Jennifer Cook O’Toole

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849059022


  “Autism and Flexischooling: A Shared Classroom and Homeschooling Approach”

Clare Lawrence

Foreword by Luke Beardon

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849052795


  “Getting into the Game: Sports Programs for Kids with Autism”

Veronica Smith and Stephanie Y Patterson

Foreword by Dr Connie Kasari

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849052498


Coming Soon  “Teaching Your Child with Love and Skill: A Guide for Parents and Other Educators of Children with Autism, including Moderate to Severe Autism”

Joyce Show

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849058766


Coming Soon  “The Asperger Children’s Toolkit”

Francis Musgrave

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849052931


New  “Raising Martians – from Crash-landing to Leaving Home: How to Help a Child with Asperger Syndrome or High-functioning Autism

Joshua Muggleton

Foreword by Tony Attwood

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849050029


New  “Everyday Activities to Help Your Young Child with Autism Live Life to the Full: Simple Exercises to Boost Functional Skills, Sensory Processing, Coordination and Self-Care”

Debra S. Jacobs and Dion E. Betts

Foreword by Carol A. Just

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849052382


New “Safety Skills for Asperger Women: How to Save a Perfectly Good Female Life”

Liane Holliday Willey

Foreword by Tony Attwood

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849058360

New“Responding to Self-Harm in Children and Adolescents: A Professionals Guide to Identification, Intervention and Support”

Steven Walker

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849051729


New  “Developmental Speech-Language Training through Music for Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders: Theory and Clinical Application”

Hayoung A. Lim

Foreword by Karen Miller

http://jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781849058490


Take Care,

Julie

xx

Statue of Liberty

Statue of Liberty




ScienceDaily (Feb. 8, 2012) — People who are more physically active report greater levels of excitement and enthusiasm than people who are less physically active, according to Penn State researchers. People also are more likely to report feelings of excitement and enthusiasm on days when they are more physically active than usual.


“You don’t have to be the fittest person who is exercising every day to receive the feel-good benefits of exercise,” said David Conroy, professor of kinesiology. “It’s a matter of taking it one day at a time, of trying to get your activity in, and then there’s this feel-good reward afterwards.”


Conroy added that it often is hard for people to commit to an exercise program because they tend to set longterm rather than short-term goals.


“When people set New Year’s resolutions, they set them up to include the entire upcoming year, but that can be really overwhelming,” he said. “Taking it one day at a time and savoring that feel-good effect at the end of the day might be one step to break it down and get those daily rewards for activity. Doing this could help people be a little more encouraged to stay active and keep up the program they started.”


Read in Full:

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/02/120208132709.htm




By Nadia Persun, PhD


Small talk. That smile. You are special. How sweet. Be mine. Love you. I am yours. Only you. Soul mate. True love. Marry me. Live happily ever after.


You got together with your life partner for many reasons: shared perspectives and outlooks, physical attraction, shared spirituality, shared professional lives, etc. But you also enjoyed one another’s company because it’s fun! In the beginning, you did not have much but each other, but it was enough. There were sweet words, long phone talks, walks and candlelit dinners. You had meaningful conversations, shared your dreams and goals, planned your future together.


What is your relationship like today? Does it still include fun times and romance? Or have you resorted to talking about and handling chores and responsibilities related to children, career and other duties of adult life?

 

When fun leaves a relationship, it can be a sign that the relationship is heading toward the rocks. Fun is a part of life and it’s definitely a part of any healthy relationship. It’s something that brought you together, made you want to stay with each other. It is something that helps you stay together, survive life’s hardships and forgive each other in bitter moments.


When life gets difficult, it puts a heavy weight on your scale of marital balance, dragging it down. Good times together is the weight that you put on the other side of the scale, to give you a much-needed internal lift. It helps you put things in perspective, balance it out and feel good about yourself, your partner, and your life together.


The way you and your significant other define fun is up to you, but it’s important to keep doing it even as your relationship matures. Love to dance but haven’t been in years? It’s time to make a new dance date. Liked watching movies together, but haven’t made time to do it in months (or years)? Pick a night and head to a theater or rent a movie. Have dinner in a restaurant or cook a meal together at home.


Read in Full:

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/02/09/is-it-time-to-start-dating-your-spouse/

What is Life Like for Singles Who Wanted to Marry?


By Bella DePaulo, Ph.D


I am single at heart. I love my single life. There is not a day in my life when I wished I were married – though there are many days when I wish I had all of the perks and protections of married people, or that I wouldn’t be excluded from events simply because I am single.


Other singles, though, do want to marry, including some who are in their 40s and beyond and have been single the whole time. How do they feel about their lives? That’s the topic of a cover story in this Sunday’s Washington Post Magazine.

 

You might think that people willing to tell a reporter for a national newspaper that they wanted to be married and they are still single, would tell life stories full of sorrow and loneliness and woe. That’s not at all how they described their lives. I quoted some of them elsewhere, so here I’ll just mention one more person from the article – James, who is 48.


James has dated often throughout his adult life. For a long time, he was “certain his time would come.” Here’s how the story continues:


Read More …

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/single-at-heart/2012/02/what-is-life-like-for-singles-who-wanted-to-marry/

Living Alone: 12 Things You Didn’t Know

By Bella DePaulo, Ph.D


Think you know what it means to live alone? Even if you are have your own personal experiences living solo, and know lots of other people who do, too, chances are that you have been misled by the media and other myth-makers about what solo life is really like.


The most significant, intensive, and far-reaching study of solo living is described in Eric Klinenberg’s book, Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone. Due out tomorrow (February 2, 2012), it is a thoughtful and engaging book, and I highly recommend that you read every word. Here, I’ve plucked out just a dozen of the many revelations about solo living that you can find in the book. Enjoy!

 

  1. 1.  In the United States, there are fewer households comprised of mom, dad, and the kids than of single people living on their own. About 31 million Americans live alone.

  2. 2.  Have you heard the one about how single people need to “settle down”? Well, singles living solo are already settled. Follow them, and people in other households types, over a five year period and you will find that the solo-dwellers are one of the most stable types.

  3. 3.  Do you think that living solo is mostly for the very young adults and the very old (typically women who have outlived their husbands)? Wrong on both counts. The majority of people living on their own are between the ages of 35 and 65.

  4. 4.  The percentage of single-person households in the U.S. is high. But the 28% figure is far outpaced by the 40 to 45% of single-person households in Sweden, Norway, Finland, and Denmark. In Stockholm, almost two-thirds of all households consist of just one person.

  5. 5.  Living alone is not the same as feeling alone or isolated. In fact, “cities with high numbers of singletons enjoy a thriving public culture” (p. 18). If you live solo in a city and want to be with other people, often you can just walk out the door.

Read in Full:

http://blogs.psychcentral.com/single-at-heart/2012/02/living-alone-12-things-you-didn%e2%80%99t-know/

Online Dating Can Be Improved


By Rick Nauert PhD Senior News Editor
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on February 7, 2012


The growth of the online dating industry has been nothing short of spectacular. But a new Northwestern University study suggests the current science behind the industry is weak as cyber matchmakers use ineffective algorithms and profiles for finding potential love interests.


Researchers say improvements are on the horizon as mobile dating, the latest iteration in digital dating, holds promise as it brings together potential partners face-to-face fast to see if “sparks” exist.


Although the research on mobile dating is scarce, Eli Finkel, associate professor of psychology at Northwestern and lead author of the study, is optimistic about this approach.


“GPS features on smartphone apps can tell you who is nearby and willing to be browsed,” Finkel said. “With a little bit of basic information, potential daters can get together right away for a quick face-to-face meet-up.”


Read in Full:

http://psychcentral.com/news/2012/02/07/online-dating-can-be-improved/34529.html

Young Love Really Can Hurt: Parents Can Use Valentine’s Month to Teach Safe Dating for Teens


ScienceDaily (Feb. 7, 2012) — Teen dating: it’s a subject that causes many parents to shudder and shy away. But romance is a fact of life for young people, and parents can use Valentine’s Day to start important conversations with their teens or pre-teens that can make dating and relationships safer for them — not just now but throughout their lives.


The experts at Youth Villages say there’s a dark side to puppy love.

 

*Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the United States is a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner.

 

* One in four teen girls in a relationship says she has been threatened with violence or experienced verbal abuse, and 13 percent of teens say they were physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend.

 

* Forty-five percent of girls know a friend or peer who has been pressured into having intercourse or oral sex.


These statistics were compiled by the Centers for Disease Control in Atlanta.


The Internet, social media and cell phones have opened up new avenues for improper, even illegal behavior, among teenagers. Teens can be harassed or ridiculed through texts or Facebook posts. And one in five teen girls has electronically sent or posted nude or nearly nude photos or videos.


What’s a parent to do? Kristin Landers, a clinical program manager for Youth Villages, a private nonprofit with the mission to help children with emotional, behavioral and mental health issues and their families, said to help teens date safely, lines of communication have to be open, and parents must pay attention. Here are some tips:


Read More …

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2012/02/120207095535.htm

9 Tips For Building a Loving Relationship


By YourTango Experts

This guest article from YourTango was written by Dr. Lynda Klau. 


How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These indispensable tips were written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships, family and even work relationships.


1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without being afraid.


Don’t interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don’t make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you’re too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe and “calm down.”


Remember: your partner is not the enemy.

 

2. Separate the facts from the feelings.


What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I’m seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What’s the real truth? Once you’re able to differentiate facts from feelings, you’ll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.


3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.


Each of us is not a solo instrument. We’re more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your ‘gut’ saying? For example: My mind is saying ‘definitely leave her,’ but my heart says ‘I really love her.’ Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.


4. Develop and cultivate compassion.


Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don’t have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoging respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.


5. Create a “we” that can house two “I’s”.


The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually-supportive relationship is to be separate and connected. In co-dependent relationships, each person sacrifices part of him or her self, compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual “I” contributes to the creation of a “we” that is stronger than the sum of its parts.


The differences between you and your partner are not negatives. You don’t need to be with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they’re often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.


6. Partner, heal thyself.


Don’t expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don’t try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.


Read in Full:

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/02/04/9-tips-for-building-a-loving-relationship/

The Seven Year Itch: Theories of Marriage, Divorce, and Love


Why many couples fall in love, get married, and then get divorced

 




Friday, February 03 2012 by Catherine Brand


UNC Chapel Hill this afternoon will officially mark the opening of its new Comprehensive Angelman Syndrome Clinic at the Carolina Institute for Developmental Disabilities. Anne Wheeler is a psychologist at CIDD; she’s also co-coordinator for the new clinic. She says Angelman Syndrome is a rare congenital disorder that occurs in about 1 in 15-thousand births.


Anne Wheeler: And it’s associated with a whole host of lifelong challenges and disorders, autistic-like behaviors, significant intellectual and behavioral disabilities… language disorders, lack of speech for a lot of them, frequent seizures, motor imbalance probs, so it’s pretty significant.


Wheeler says treatment of the disorder is integrative and complex. The clinic will bring together specialists from fields including neurology, speech therapy, genetics, and physical therapy. Wheeler says the clinic is the first of its kind in the country to provide all of these resources under one roof.


Source(Includes Audio):

http://wunc.org/programs/news/archive/TAW020212.mp3/view

 

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Broadmoor Hospital is one of the highest security psychiatric hospitals in the UK and it has made a series of videos that describe what goes on behind their very high walls.


Broadmoor is possibly one of the most famous or infamous hospitals in Britain – largely due to being featured in outraged media stories about ‘sick killers’.


Case in point – a typical article from the pun-obsessed UK tabloid The Sun: “Resident Wii-vil: Serial killers including the Yorkshire Ripper are enjoying £5,000 of Nintendo Wii gaming at taxpayers’ expense”).


What most of the papers miss (or ignore) is that Broadmoor is not a prison but a hospital that treats patients with severe mental disorders who became dangerous when ill.


This means it often receives patients from court cases where people with mental illness are tried for murder or violence. The verdict may be the equivalent of ‘not guilty by reason of insanity’ with the patient remitted to hospital, or ‘guilty’ (meaning that the person was mentally competent when they committed the crime) with high security hospital treatment still required because mental illness increases the chance of violence.

 

… Link to a video tour of Broadmoor Hospital (via @DrPetra).


Read in Full:

http://mindhacks.com/2012/02/10/inside-broadmoor/



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