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Relationships come in all shapes and sizes, and never moreso than for those on the autism spectrum. As many have intense interests and a requirement for time alone which their health depends upon, striking a healthy balance that meets the needs of both or all friends/partners is essential. Many seek friendships/relationships with others who are also on the autism spectrum, those whom they feel will best understand, accept and respect them for who they are. While this may work out wonderfully for some, naturally, compatibility is never guaranteed. Much in life is trial and error as we grow and learn from our experiences. Some relationships on the spectrum thrive where couples live in an unconventional manner by society’s standards, living largely in separate residences, while married or committed to one another, or perhaps under the same roof, but retiring to separate rooms. Such couples are known to make the most of the time they do share together. Absence makes the heart grow fonder may well become the mantra! Communication does not come easy for most on the spectrum, but where there is a commitment to make a relationship work, to make a relationship last, the benefits are enormous, for those so inclined. Often, being explicit in verbal/written form, clearly stating wants and needs, can make all the difference.


Many take for granted the ability to read body language, the ability to recognise, engage in and enjoy flirtatious exchange. Some on the spectrum report an inability to pick up on flirting along with the usual cues that represent a show of interest from prospective partners. The presence of mind and self confidence required to say the right thing at the right time, do the right thing at the right time – all in all, be the person your partner needs you to be and vice versa may not come easy for even the smoothest lothario – all relationships require work and TLC. There are some AS/NT relationships that work well and others that have benefited from an autism/AS-friendly Counselor. Those relationships that work best, tend to involve:


  1. A willingness to accept and respect, even cherish difference.

  2. An understanding of the need for independent alone-time in order for the partner on the spectrum to recharge his or her batteries at regular intervals(without taking it personally).

  3. Acceptance that feelings may be expressed via ‘actions’ rather than words.

  4. Communication that is clear and concise, minus hidden meanings and/or nagging.

  5. Regular quality alone time “together” to enjoy shared interests.

  6. A genuine commitment toward the relationship, a willingness to compromise and to genuinely listen to one another.


There are a portion of those on the spectrum who have no wish to form a physical relationship as many consider themselves asexual. However, this does not necessarily mean they do not seek out friendships and close relationships with significant others. There exists some who do choose to go it alone however, seemingly requiring and enjoying minimal time with people in general and who throw themselves into their life’s work and their interests which to them are as essential as the air they breathe. What makes a happy and contented life for one, may be another’s poison. Sadly, there will always be some who struggle with loneliness, on the spectrum or otherwise, for whom friendships/relationships are or were too difficult to maintain for one reason or another throughout life. Finding a career and/or interests may help fill the void to some extent. Other options include working on individual character strengths and weaknesses in a bid to finding a partner and allowing friendships/relationships to form naturally over time through shared interests. Young or mature, age itself is no barrier to finding someone.


The following articles are but a small collection that I hope will grow as time goes on. Please note that while some articles are autism specific, others are not necessarily representative of relationships for those on the autism spectrum, but cover relationships in general.

ARTICLES

 

“Autistic Couple Bound To Each Other – And Their Art”:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/artanddesign/2006/apr/15/art.fashion


“They’re Autistic – And They’re In Love”:

http://www.glamour.com/magazine/2009/02/theyre-autistic-and-theyre-in-love


“The Challenge of Relationships in Adulthood and Asperger’s Syndrome”:

http://www.suite101.com/article.cfm/adult_aspergers/111094


“Does your Partner Have Asperger’s?”:

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/body_and_soul/article3416502.ece 

 

“Autism In Love: Dating, Marriage and Confusion in an Aspie Relationship”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/autism_in_love_dating_marriage_and_confusion_in_an_aspie_r.htm

 

“New Light Shed On Male & Female Brain Differences”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/new_light_shed_on_male__female_brain_differences.htm


“The Relationship Dance”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/the_relationship_dance.htm


“Relationships:What Attracts A Woman To A Man: Facial Attractiveness Explained/Why a Broken Heart Really Does Hurt: Scientists Find Social Rejection is Physically Painful”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_what_attracts_a_woman_to_a_man_facial_attrac.htm


“Communication in Relationships: Key Questions to Consider in Significant Relationships/12 Things You Want Your In-Laws To Know/9 Steps To Better Communication Today/Why Do We Choose Our Mates? Ask Charles Darwin, Prof Says”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/communication_in_relationships_key_questions_to_consider_in.htm


“Relationships: The Attractions of Humour/Long-Term Happiness/Marriage/When A Friendship Ends/Broken Heart Syndrome”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships__the_attractions_of_humourlongterm_happines.htm


“Health Effects of Divorce, Widowhood Linger Even After Remarriage”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/health_affects_of_divorce_widowhood_linger_even_after_remar.htm


“The Internet Helps Teenagers with Social Relationships”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/the_internet_helps_teenagers_with_social_relationships.htm


“Relationships: Includes Remarriage, Respect & Communication, Reducing Divorce Rates, Friendships Etc”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_includes_remarriage_respect__communication.htm


“Relationships: Female Friends, Supporting Divorced Families, Apologizing To A Woman, Personality, Do Opposites Attract?, Marital Satisfaction Etc”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_female_friends_supporting_divorced_families.htm


“Top Worries During Christmas 2009: Money, Relationships And Health”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/top_worries_during_christmas_2009_money_relationships_and_.htm


“Relationships: 6 Ways To Show You Care/Study: Marriage Wards Off Blues/Managing Conflict”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_6_ways_to_show_you_carestudy_marriage_wards.htm


“Relationships: Recession & Marriage, What’s The Impact?, Conflict, Heartbroken? Take A Tylenol(Seriously)”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_recession__marriage_whats_the_impact_con.htm


“Relationships: Co Dependent or Addicted to Love?, Desire May Skew Reality, The Scent of a Woman, Fidelity, Facebook”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_co_dependent_or_addicted_to_love_desire_may.htm


“Couples with Shared Identity & Conflict Resolution, Pretty Women & Anger Issues, Men & Guilt, Romance in the Digital World, Emotional Affair Recovery, Valentine’s Day & More”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_couples_with_shared_identity__conflict_resol.htm


“Relationships: Support, Jealousy, Valentines, Keeping The Flame Alive, Cars & male Appeal, Living Together, Taller Than Your Man?, Pride”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_support_jealousy_valentines_keeping_the_fl.htm


“Relationships: Kindness Key To Dating Success?, Tips For Valentine’s, Just Met, Do I Know You?, If Marriage Is So Good …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships.htm


“Relationships: A Healthy Relationship, Mixed families, Tell Me Lies, Tell Me Sweet Little Lies & More”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_a_healthy_relationship_stuck_in_a_bad_love_p.htm


“Relationships: The Attraction of Red, Psychology of Touch, Facebook Profiles, Self Knowledge, Marriage Problems?, Soothing Approaches”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_the_attraction_of_red_psychology_of_touch_f.htm


“Relationships: Men’s Preference For The Hourglass Figure, The Last Taboo, Teen Relationships & More”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_mens_preference_for_the_hourglass_figure_th.htm

 

“Relationships: Playing Hard To Get. Does it Work?, The Truth About Open Marriage, Confidence, Grandparenting, Jealousy, Emotional Resiliency & More”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_playing_hard_to_get_does_it_work_the_truth.htm

 

“Relationships: Controlling Men, Male & Misunderstood, Questions About Marriage, Monogomy& Multiple Relationships & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_controlling_men_male__misunderstood_questi.htm

 

“Relationships: 5 Secrets For Successful Long-Term Relationships, Online Dating, Hooking Up vs Dating, Sex Without Romance, Finding Long Lost Friends & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_5_secrets_for_successful_longterm_relationsh.htm

 

“Relationships: ADHD & Relationships, Family Tree Research May Cause Rifts, Affairs of the Mind, Forgiveness, Loss Of A Spouse, Seniors & Loneliness, Darwin’s Theory of Sexual Selection & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_adhd__relationships_family_tree_research_ma.htm

 

“Relationships: Intelligence & Exclusivity, A Marriage Made In Hormones, Indifference, Serial Adultery, Alcohol Dependence, Choosing a Partner & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_intelligence__exclusivity_a_marriage_made_i.htm

 

“Relationships: Friends First, Understanding Male Friendships, The Power of the Ex, One Dating Trait of a Successful Future Mate, Intimacy & Vulnerability & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_friends_first_understanding_male_friendships.htm

 

“Relationships: Highest Quality Marriages, Narcissism’s First Cousin, What Makes a True Friend, Adolescent Dating, Good Girls, Bad Girls, Older Men & Sexual Issues & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_highest_quality_marriages_narcissisms_first.htm

 

“Relationships: To Love Well, You Have To Sometimes Feel Inadequate, The Sound of Seduction, Shyness Affects Marital Quality, An Inconvenient Truth: Monogomy & Libido, Happiness Interview & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_to_love_well_you_have_to_sometimes_feel_inad.htm

 

“Relationships: Daily Appreciation Helps Romance, Overcoming Anger In Relationships, Men Literally Die For Sex(Male Mortality), Giving & Accepting An Apology, Female Friendships”:

 http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_daily_appreciation_helps_romance_overcoming_.htm

 

“Relationships: How To Ask For What You Want, Relationships & The Silent Treatment, Rejection, Dating & Self Esteem, Shared Solitude & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_how_to_ask_for_what_you_want_relationships_.htm


“Relationships: Others Influence Our Choice Of Mates, Concerned From Tunbridge Wells, Have A Happy Marriage …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_others_influence_our_choice_of_mates_concern.htm


“Relationships: Speaking Male, Speaking Female, Broken Hearts Hurt Men More Than Women, Relationship Insecurity Ups Health Risks”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_speaking_male_speaking_female_broken_hearts.htm

 

“Relationships: Better For Men To Be Macho Than Modest, A Tricky Transaction, Make-Up Sex & Self Sabotage, Ending Relationships Via New Media, Former Lovers & Trust & More …”:

http://www.aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_better_for_men_to_be_macho_than_modest_a_tri.htm


“Inception And Dangerous Ideas In Relationships”:

http://www.aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/inception_and_dangerous_ideas_in_relationships.htm


“Relationships: Women Attracted To Men In Red, I Want You … Go Away!, Unequal Love Across The Color Line, Marriage Lowers Stress, Watch That Work Schedule, Women & Sexuality & More …”:

http://www.aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_women_attracted_to_men_in_red_i_want_you_.htm


“Relationships: Time-Starved Relationships, 2 Heads Are Better Than 1 – With The Right Partner, Do Couples Grow More Alike With The Passage Of Time?, What Exactly Is A Hook-Up?”:

http://www.aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_timestarved_relationships_2_heads_are_bette.htm

 

“Relationships: Sons Reduce Likelihood Of Divorce, Coping With Divorce, The Bipolar Relationship, How To Improve Your Mood & Reduce Tension, How To Be Happy, Confucian Style”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_social_connections_sons_reduce_likelihood_of.htm


“Relationships: Online Dating Insights, Can Other People Make Us Happy?, Freedom to Love & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_online_dating_insights_can_other_people_make.htm


“Relationships: Positive Relationships, Do Opposites Attract?, Objectum Sexuality, The Best Way To Meet Someone Etc”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_positive_relationships_do_opposites_attract.htm

 

“Men Prefer A Pretty Face For A LTR, Seeking Happily Ever After: Tips For Singles, Evolutionary Perspective On After-Sex Behaviors, Fight Styles/Conflict Resolution & More …”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_men_prefer_a_pretty_face_for_a_ltr_seeking_h.htm


“Relationships: Imitation Of Language Suggests Blissful Relationship, Snapshot of America’s Sexual Behaviors, 8 Habits Of Lousy Listeners, The Allure Of Red, Can’t Buy Me Love, But Happiness?”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_imitation_of_language_suggests_blissful_relat.htm


“Relationships: Love Can Ease Pain, Selfless Genes Attract Mates, Visual Clues Linked To Male Sexual Memory, Online Dating, 3 Danger Signs Of An Affair, How Friends Affect Your Brain & More …”:
http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_love_can_ease_pain_selfless_genes_attract_ma.htm

 

“Relationships: Facebook May Be Hazardous To Your Relationship, Forget What Grandma Taught You: Smart Is Sexy”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_facebook_may_be_hazardous_to_your_relationshi.htm

 

“Relationships: Man With Asperger’s Syndrome Finds Love With First Girl He Was Able To Look In The Eye”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_man_with_aspergers_syndrome_finds_love_with_.htm

 

“Relationships: Falling Only Takes About A Fifth Of A Second, Flirting, Emotional Intimacy, Affair Prevention, Divorce, Couples, Resilience & Cancer, 10 Tips To Enhance Love Bonds & More”:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/relationships_falling_only_takes_about_a_fifth_of_a_second.htm

LINKS


“Relate – The Relationship People”

http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html


“BASRT – British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy”

http://www.basrt.org.uk/


“Institute of Family Therapy”

http://www.instituteoffamilytherapy.org.uk/


“2as1 – Family & Relationship Support Specialists”

http://www.2as1.net/


“BBC – Relationships”

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/


“Relationships Foundation”:

http://www.relationshipsfoundation.org/


“Divorce Aid: UK’s Leading Divorce Resource For Divorce Advice and Personal Help”

http://www.divorceaid.co.uk/


Forum: “ASD Relationships: Asperger’s and Autism in Relationships”

http://asdrelationships.freeforums.org/index.php


“Relationships Forum and Online Community(Help & Advice):

http://www.problem-relationships.com/

 

“Relationships & Communication – Forums at Psych Central”:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=7


“Sexuality & Gender Issues”:

http://forums.psychcentral.com/forumdisplay.php?f=43


“Psych Central: Relationships”:

http://psychcentral.com/resources/Relationships/


“Quiz: How Strong Is Your Relationship?”:

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/relationship_quiz.htm

 

BOOKS

Asperger Meets Girl: Happy Endings for Asperger Boys

Jonathon Griffiths

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843106302/

The Love-Shy Survival Guide

Talmer Shockley

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843108979/

Autistics’ Guide to Dating: A Book by Autistics, for Autistics and Those Who Love Them

Emilia Murry Ramey and Jody John Ramey

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book.php/isbn/9781843108818

Asperger Syndrome and Social Relationships

Adults Speak Out About Asperger Syndrome

Edited by Genevieve Edmonds and Luke Beardon

http://www.jkp.com/search/index.php?s=Unwritten+Rules+of+Social+Relationships

Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships

Temple Grandin and Sean Barron

Edited by Veronica Zysk

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Unwritten-Rules-Social-Relationships/dp/193256506X

http://www.amazon.com/Unwritten-Rules-Social-Relationships/dp/193256506X

Social Skills for Teenagers and Adults with Asperger’s Syndrome: A Practical Guide to Day-to day Life

Nancy J. Patrick

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843108764

Friendships: The Aspie Way

Wendy Lawson

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843104278

Sex, Sexuality and the Autism Spectrum

Wendy Lawson, Glenys Jones

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843102847

Making Sense of Sex: A Forthright Guide to Puberty, Sex and Relationships for People with Asperger’s Syndrome

Sarah Attwood

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843103745

Autism: Asperger’s and Sexuality – Puberty and Beyond

Jerry and Mary Newport

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Autism-Aspergers-Sexuality-Puberty-Beyond/dp/1885477880/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1268407838&sr=1-5

Mozart and the Whale

An Asperger’s Love Story

Jerry and Mary Newport

with Johnny Dodd

http://www.realmozart-whale.com/

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Mozart-Whale-Aspergers-Love-Story/dp/0743272846/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1268407838&sr=1-4

Asperger Syndrome – A Love Story

Sarah Hendrickx and Keith Newton

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843105404

Love, Sex and Long-Term Relationships: What People with Asperger Syndrome Really Really Want

Sarah Hendrickx

Foreword by Stephen M. Shore

http://www.jkp.com/catalogue/book/9781843106050

    

Books About Relationships from Amazon”:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/relationships-Books/s?ie=UTF8&keywords=relationships&rh=n%3A266239%2Ck%3Arelationships&page=1

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=relationships&x=9&y=29

MOVIES

Articles Relating To This Title:

From News Archives : 24th February, 2006:

The film begins USA distribution in the two cities where it was filmed: Spokane, Washington and Cour D’Alene, Idaho. The opening weekend is April 14th, 2006. The studio will do a charity event for an autism organization in Spokane a few days before the opening. Cour D’Alene is the home of an adult support group which gave input to the project back in 2004, as did Jerry’s group in Los Angeles prior to production.(My thanks to Jerry)http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/news_archives_24th_february_2006.htm

Mozart and The Whale Review:

http://www.aspergeradults.ca/mozartwhalereview.html

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Adam: “Playing It Straight”

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/adam__playing_it_straight.htm

Is Adam The New Rain Man?

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/is_adam_the_new_rain_man.htm

Autistic Portrayals in Cinema

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/autistic_portrayals_in_cinema.htm

Article Relating To This Title:

http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/mary_and_max_engaging_for_all.htm

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http://aspie-editorial.blog-city.com/my_name_is_khan_to_be_screened_at_berlin_film_festival.htm



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